
“Surrender to ease. Surrender to being loved. Surrender knowing the limits of how far you can go. Relax into curiosity and let it reveal the wonder of your unknown.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“Persons appear to us according to the light we throw upon them from our own minds.” -Laura Ingalls Wilder
When I first started “amyjalapeno.com” I would post quotes of others mingled with my own musings. About a year and a half in, I decided to challenge myself with the daily hot! quote by seeing how far I could go down the rabbit hole on my own. Alas, I have been able to come up with anything as brilliant as this. It beautifully sums up how much we taint reality and the lives of others when our fear and imagination fills in the gaps. This quote is the ultimate reality check and I absolutely love it.
Your perception of every single person you encounter is entirely colored by your primary thoughts and feelings.
“If you only connect deeply in relationships when there is a crisis or shared grievance, you are training your subconscious to practice psychological stress so that you have an excuse to be loved. You don’t need an excuse. You exist, and that is the best reason there is. It is not about believing you deserve love. It is about feeling, practicing, training your psyche to feel love whether ideal conditions are present or not, which is the best contribution to your life, your relationships and the world you can make.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“When your spouse, lover, significant other tells you what they want, give them exactly what they ask for. Don’t offer them more or less or a version you think they will like better. Listen carefully, without interference from the voice in your head. Then from love and kindness and sincerity, give them precisely what they ask for. Let them add. Let them take away without any resistance from you. This gives them a voice in the relationship and will inspire them to respect yours.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“There is an opportunity for you to grow deeply, to make more room in order to feel a deeper love, and it is blocked by your judgement of a situation or another person. Rash judgment is the protector of pain and fear and ego. This is the gateway to freedom from those things: when you approach a person or situation that has brought you misunderstanding or pain, pretend you’ve never looked upon them before. Practice setting aside your preconceived notions of how the encounter will turn out and the opportunity for joy and depth will light up your mind.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“There is no suffering for joy, no path of trials you must go through in order to deserve it. The only sacrifice for joy is in the surrendering of the idea that it has a price or that it must somehow be earned. Joy and bliss and love are yours now, simply because you exist.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“When you act with desperation or anger or fear, you literally make those emotions physical in form through that action. Wait. Then speak, make decisions, move when you feel love, enthusiasm, and joy. Don’t wait for someone or some thing to bring those emotions to you. Go out and get them! Do anything: listen to music, be alone in nature, appreciate anything that makes you happy. Then take action. When you appreciate every situation as an opportunity for you to practice this, every situation will work to your advantage. Bring bliss into physical form.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“If you focus on the lack of time, there will never be enough. If you insist others change for you to love, you will repel warmth and affection. If you perpetually seek certainty and resist familiarity with the unknown, you will prevent understanding. The means is always the end. If you continually feel the lack of something, that is what you will prove to yourself and the world.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“If you want to really reach someone, descend to your depths, grab your greatest weakness by the neck and pull it out. Take a look at it from every angle. Don’t judge it, try to change it, or slap a label on it. See it for everything that it is and then put it back inside. At some unexpected moment you’ll be able to see the weakness of another, and without their awareness perform the same magic. And in time, they will do it for themselves.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com