“Your greatest contribution is not to say something clever or be in control, be on top of every situation. It is not to have everyone around you admire you or do what you say. Your greatest contribution to the world and to those you love would be to perfect silence, to listen, to seek understanding, to not […]
“What you feel shapes your perceptions. What you feel filters how you listen and determines the selected bits of fact you hear. What you feel drives your choices. What you feel is your reality. So if your current reality is loneliness, unworthiness, anger, or shame, why not fashion a story that causes you to feel something different, something better. Is the story exactly […]
“When your spouse, lover, significant other tells you what they want, give them exactly what they ask for. Don’t offer them more or less or a version you think they will like better. Listen carefully, without interference from the voice in your head. Then from love and kindness and sincerity, give them precisely what they ask for. Let them add. Let them take away without any resistance from you. This gives them a voice in the relationship and will inspire them to respect yours.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“If you want to connect or influence a person, listen. While you listen, you may hear an inner dialog that fills in the blanks and spaces and gives you all sorts of insight about this person. If you follow it, you will get lost. If you are brave, you will realize every criticism, judgement, and compliment that comes to mind is your own psyche telling you what you need to work on next. Then, once that is all out-of-the-way, you will listen to others with a fierce understanding of your shared humanity.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“When your interactions primarily consist of those people you could potentially “save” or guide toward your way of doing things, the ego is in charge. If you really want to help people, if you are truly concerned about their well-being, be the one person not trying to get them to do or be anything. Be the one person they can truly be their beautiful, ugly, authentic self with.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“Maybe they aren’t confused. Maybe you are not listening.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“Wait and listen without ego or identification to any ideology or religion, shared grief or group of people. Wait and listen without inner dialog, without attaching previous judgements to what is, without anticipation and expectation. Wait and listen and trust that everything in the past, all that is, and the entirety to come is a part of one whole body of good.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“Your perspective will always be limited to some degree, regardless your level of enlightenment. There will always be missing facts, bits of information, or unknown details. Thus the importance to approach every situation, interaction, and each conversation with a certain humility and acceptance that there will always be more to learn. Being aware of your limited perceptions sharpens listening, expands awareness, and deepens your experience.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“The purest communication begins in silence.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“If all you are doing is waiting for the other person’s lips to stop moving, you are not listening. There is a specific emotion behind their words, and that is what they are attempting to share. Listen.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
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