“Blaming others for your experiences, your feelings, your struggles is simply being lazy. Although it seems like an easier way out, it creates more drama, more struggle, and drains your time, energy and attention from what will actually change the circumstances you want out of.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“You know that vibe you get from particular people – the in your face vibe that blats, ‘You’re not worth my time and I would rather be sitting in a pile of shit than get to know you.’ You know, that voice – the one you are absolutely certain is the other person psychologically stabbing you? Well, maybe it’s not them. Maybe it’s your most practiced hurt, your deepest fear, or acutest insecurity. Maybe it’s your ‘little me’ holding to what it can to stay alive and then pinning the blame on an unexplained glance or the untold back story of another person. But, I could be wrong. It could be your powers of super perception and awe-inspiring omniscience. Yeah, it could be that.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“Those that demand the most from you usually give very little. They inadvertently play games of control and when you don’t play along, will blame you for their emptiness. But those who love authentically take you as you are and will ask nothing they are not ready and willing to give.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“To focus on the fault of another before looking at that same behavior within yourself is to nurture a frail psyche.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“Anxiety is self-generated, as is fear and expectation and blame. If you experience these, the person you project them upon can do nothing about it. Only you can.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“True understanding blames no one.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
“The ego is like a petulant child, ready to blame, to defend itself in the face of irrefutable evidence. It picks out irrelevant details, taints perspectives, gorges on negativity until it gets its way. Love waits, watches, patiently communes to understanding.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com ***A big announcement at the end of August will allow […]
“The person entrenched in blame sees only the action against them. But the person of accountability sees their particular choices that led to the chain of events which brought that moment to them.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeño.com
“Anger, blame, and martyrdom are thieves. They steal time, relationships, and respect. Personal accountability is the life-giver, the thing that fills the soul with esteem and repairs it from the inside out.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeño.com
“Inner self-reliance does not mean you do not need anyone. It means you care deeply for others, and so entirely that you do not blame them for things or smother them with your expectations.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeño.com
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