Some of us run from people and situations that cause us to look at ourselves honestly, at those things that seem too difficult to face. What the uncomfortable situations and relationships have to show us is as important as a great work of art or fine poetry or profound scripture. They are truth in metaphor and to run from them is useless, because art and poetry, uncomfortable relationships and situations are everywhere. They cannot be escaped.
Truth is what we run from and is wherever we head to.
Truth takes various shapes and forms. It teases you to come find it and then disappears at the moment you think you have it. It plays a game of shadows with you until you understand that it is always with you and cannot be directly gazed upon or defined or measured. It can only be experienced and cannot be transferred or shared or explained.
Truth is an individual event that somehow, miraculously, brilliantly affects the whole of humanity.
There are people and situations and things you think you can never do without – things you use to define who you are and what your place is in the world. But ultimately, ten, twenty, thirty years from now those things and situations will either fulfill their purpose and no longer exist or those people will have moved down their own path to expand their own reality.
Everyone has, at one point in their lives, grasped on to someone or something for a sense of psychological purpose or emotional safety. Sometimes it is necessary and provides a brief haven, a breather from chaos; but most often it is a survival tactic of the ego – a moment of panic when something you thought you could not do without gets ripped from your world and the ego breaks into hysterics, as if you’re bleeding out and will die in seconds if that thing or person is not replaced.
And that’s the thing to remember…
Ego is fear and panic, security and being certain. Love is understanding and truth, newness and adventure. There is no newness, no awareness or appreciation without dying and loss. -Amy Larson
Why be the victim and wait a decade (or several) before life breaks a psychological co-dependence for you? Practice every day dying to what or who you think you cannot do without. You will experience deeper peace and have a greater appreciation for it/them here and now because of it.
It’s a sort of super power really – to have access to truth and peace in any place, with (or without) any person, and in any situation.
- Don’t wait for life to take things from you. Remove them yourself… one by one. You might be surprised at what remains and what ends up following you everywhere.
- Dare to pursue a passion or challenge yourself with a new, extremely different life situation.
- Shake things up a bit. Let the crappy stuff fall away and everything that is true and all meant for your higher good will remain. Always.
“No matter where you run or what ties you break, the truth will always follow. Be courageous and sever the bonds where your brilliance is not realized!” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com
*This rehabbed hot! quote was originally posted June 23, 2012 (currently inaccessible).