When you begin to realize that you are not what your parents, siblings, mentors told you you were, what your friends and co-workers expect you to be, and that realization is unconscious (meaning it is more of a hint, an urge, a personal manifesto moment), you will most likely separate yourself from those I just mentioned by creating psychological (and sometimes physical) boundaries that demonstrate your right to define your own life.

And this is necessary.

It is a typical adolescent behavior that most adults find themselves in during a midlife crisis. Especially when you have lived your life after the expectations of others, or simply attempted to make up for choices from the folly of your youth.

This is where most people stop… at the separation. But this is only a part of the discovery process.

Many people get stuck in the emotional fall-out of their past life breakup, because it was such a defining moment for them. They are emotionally attached to it and live the rest of their life in that sentimental groove.

Yes, the separation is necessary, but only for the initiation of experimentation, discovery, for first hand knowledge of what it means to be alive. And those things are just a taste of what it means to be human, not the end all.

The gem of being human, of being alive, and what is most often missed occurs after the exploration – the total unearthing of their soul – the integration.

The integration is gradual, and it comes into full realization when you have fused your bliss in to every thought, made it (somehow, if even in the background) a part of each conversation, and breathed it in to every act. You have no need to urge others to your cause. You simply are what you enjoy and you allow others to be the same.

“There is a strange beauty in, a slight awareness of, and an inherent longing for divergency from our human siblings, while simultaneously desiring to be in absolute harmony with them.” -Amy Larson, amyjalapeno.com