Many of us have an idea of what we think we should be, and we press on shoving ourselves into these little idea and belief molds, enduring all sorts of unnecessary suffering.

Marianne Williamson said we are most afraid of our light, our greatness, our magnificence – that part of us we most often avoid and even resist glancing at, when it must be the very origin of our every thought, action, and spoken word. We are too afraid that it is not going to fit in with our situation or with those around us or that we will have to bear some horrible consequence for letting it out.

Some of my greatest teachers have been those situations where I was literally incapacitated by another person’s choice – a choice that threw my then current reality and expectations into a tail spin, turning my world upside-down. Only then was I able to completely let go and not only surrender to the situation (because I could do nothing to change it), but allow my attention to turn to that which deserved all of it – the best within me.

Being shaped and molded into something new is extremely difficult, let alone allowing it; and especially if we think we have any say in *how* it will come about.

Because we don’t.

But if we are willing to be still, to listen to something greater within us (even if that is just silence), without all of the mental noise, all of the childhood conditioning, then little things will start to happen and the transformation will play out before us as if on a stage. And we will be the witnesses to a wonderful and entertaining performance.

“If you begin to understand what you are without trying to change it, then what you are undergoes a transformation.” –Jiddu Krishnamurti, THE LITTLE BOOK ON LIVING